Usually, in my Notes from the Heart, I share with you some lessons I’ve learned along my food and body struggle way.

But just recently I had an experience that made my heart hurt, brain spin, got me feeling pretty furious and ultimately reminded me of a lesson that I think we all need reminding of from time to time.

So, last week I decided to try out a new group fitness class that was described as “all levels.” When introduced to the teacher, I was barely looked in the eye and received a quick remark – “Ohhh…I hope you’ve worked out before, this class is really hard.”

Whether or not the teacher was trying to be funny (???), this comment hit me so hard and I can feel tears welling up even as I write this now.

Because what many trainers who come from athletic backgrounds might forget, is that for a lot of people it takes courage to show up to a new class. To be outside of their comfort zone, and move the bodies they may have been battling with for a long time.

That maybe the point isn’t to show up looking ripped, but to celebrate simply showing up.

Although I wanted to lunge my way right out of the facility, I mimicked all the moves, doubting my body, ability, and goals the whole time.

What.the.heck! This isn’t how anyone should feel. Ever.

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Through the help of loved ones, I was able to bring myself out of my fuming and self-doubting state and pull a powerful reminder:

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

And it’s through this (emotionally exhausting) experience; I’ve also learned it’s important for us all to be gentler both with ourselves and with others.

What does that look like in real life?

In my experience, it meant I gave myself permission to acknowledge all the feelings that surfaced, but NOT believe every single one. In other words, I tried to my best to foster a compassionate internal environment.

And with others?

Well, I hope through this note we are reminded to be more mindful of our words, body language, eye contact, and energy. It all matters. Because “how we relate to people, is how we relate to life.” – Danielle Laporte

So the next time you come across someone who you might not understand, I encourage you to pause before acting and think “Be kind, for everyone I meet is fighting a battle I know nothing about.”




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