January is undeniably the busiest time for the wellness, particularly diet, industry. And while I have many badass ideas brewin’ to help you become the best version of yourself this year (stay tuned!), you won’t see me promoting any quick-fix programs with instant results.

The reason is, for as long as I can remember I’ve been an “all or nothing” type of gal. And although this attitude for aptitude has served me in many ways, it’s also plagued my ability to be okay with existing in a middle ground, as well as imperfection.

“Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because there’s no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.” ― Brené Brown

During the first year of my dance program, many years ago, I couldn’t figure out how to be a first year university student AND excel in dance, so I chose to immerse myself in becoming the best dancer I could be. In my mind this meant sacrifices – restrictive eating, compulsive exercising and isolating myself from anyone who got in the way of my goals. I convinced myself I was happy – I was, after all, on my way to becoming the best.

It wasn’t until my twin sister pulled me aside one day, looked me in the eye with deep concern and asked “Are you sure that you are happy?”. I mean, I knew deep down, that my strict routine was unsustainable and that I was lonely, but I honestly didn’t how else to get where I wanted to be.

I sincerely believed that deprivation, restriction and strict sacrifices played a non-negotiable role in achieving my goals. Because the only other reality I knew was mindlessly indulging in every “bad” thing I could get my hands on.

Existing in the extremes is exhausting. Along with eating habits, emotions flip flop between hope (that the next quick-fix program will stick) and shame (that you’ve actually managed to put on pounds, yet again).

Speaking from my past and from working with courageous clients – I know that extremes equal disappointment. Their fancy names mask unsustainable false promises, and lack of real-life strategies set you up for failure. Hard to hear, trust me, I know.

So before you begin your dramatic detox or costly cleanse this January, why not strive to become better than before?

Focus on the foods that make you feel energized and ditch those that leave you sick and tired. Take a good look at the habits that you need to let go of, to make way for the ones that make you feel goood.

Big hugs and good vibes as we kick-off your best year(s) yet!

 

 

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Psst: If you haven’t yet mastered your habits (cough, cough 😉 ),  be sure to check out the inspiration behind today’s post –  Gretchen Rubin’s “Better than Before” . It’s also a fantastic listen on audiobook

 

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